Who I want to be, Due to my past

Time is running out

The earth is still turning

The more we wait,

The more we age.

The pain will never stop

But we can stop grieving.

Grieving for a change,

That we know that won’t happen.

God created everyone's path different.

We all take sharp turns.

We get hurt, sad, mad.

End up being an emotional wreck.

But why wait?

Waiting is useless without actions.

I may be young,

Old enough to understand.

Old enough to make a change,

In my life.

Just know,

Reality is a harsh person.

Testing us every minute.

As a friend, I am open ears to anyone who wants advice or to be heard. I, personally love to show people they aren't alone in this cruel world we are put in. A world who puts you on the devil's hands once in a while, just to see how strong we can get with every single time we struggle.  I have met girls who have cut themselves due to the fact they never got a response. All they wanted was to be heard. Like if they’re a magic trick, about to get sawed in half, yet when they try to scream in terror no one notices them.

Why? Thats the first question. The first question to slap us in the face before we jump to conclusions. When I ask them why? Why would they damage something so beautiful because of this supposedly life ending situation? They just look at me with a blank face, as if they saw a ghost, trying to find the reason without making it sound idiotic.

         

The situation that we go through can define who we become. Sometimes altering who we use to be.

As the middle child, and first daughter, I grew up in a lot of, "Let's go see dad at his house for the weekend”. Of course I was just 10, I didn't know much to understand what was happening, but I knew enough to acknowledge that I had to see my parents in distinct houses. To me that was “normal”. It wasn't a surprise when I didn't see my father for Christmas, or to just get a call on my birthday. It was painful, as to the point I just wanted to run my nails across the chalkboard, making it screech hurting people's ears. It has been almost half a year since the last time I saw my dad. We text here and there, I know he loves me, yet sometimes we all need a father’s encouragement to just push us a little more in life. Who was there to spoil daddys little girl? No one.

When I tell people my story (not getting into detail), they get surprised. I'm a very outgoing, cheerful, and go-getter type of person. Someone as small as an ant can be so strong when you give her a reason to prove she isn't weak as people think she can be. I learned how to smile through the tough moments, laugh at mistakes, enjoy every opportunity given to me, and to just live life to the fullest. I have such a powerful way to be always in a positive mood. When I'm tired, lost, confused, I do everything in my way to find my path to keep going. I sometimes feel like I’m going to give up, but if Jesus was able to carry that cross for many miles while being hit and was able to make it, then I can do a lot of effort and be successful. Anything is possible, just depends on the people who you call family and friends. That’s the type of person I became, because even if i was just 10, I knew enough to know that sometimes things happen for a reason, but life still goes on, and doesn't stop for anyone.

Never shall death stop any of us achieving from who we are destined to be.

         Everyone in life has a special meaning to you, either they make a significant change to our life or destroy our walls of our castle, making us not know how to get back up. Someone with inspiration, determination, and focus on their goals. That's the type person who we want in our life. Someone who is able to push us against the limit or the low expectations that other people have of us.

Stay or leave.

We all have had our heart broken to care as much as we did for the first person who hurt us. Someone else comes in, and fulfills the place the person left, making us, simply forget about the person who hurt us. Sometimes that place, can't be taken, as the absence of a father. The absence that sometimes your crave to have him by your side, but you know you won't get.

        Blood is thicker than water.

According to the modern day perfect family it should have a mother, father, and the children. To me the perfect family is people who don’t give up on each other no matter what the circumstance is, and they never turn their back against each other. We learn who is family when we are able to see who sticks around through the worst, and doesn't disappear when you are doing good.

My past didn’t affect me. I learned, as any normal teenager would and applied it to the future and present learning. Learning is what makes us better human beings, right? Implying what we have learned to our future is showing the whole world that we are using it to our great advantage. We apply our learning as education. Our education depends what we want to learn as we grow. With our learning of our mistakes and past we can improve ourselves. When we create our path with the learning of our mistakes, our past, just any type of learning we can apply it to the future, we create this person who we want to be and learn something new about us.

         As in the beginning, I said I was open ears to anyone wanting to be heard, that's how I got my path in wanting to interact with people, children and well basically anything. I have this feeling that helping people is the best thing I can do because I don't want little kids going to go through a tough moment by themselves, they deserve the best because it isn't their fault they are going through what their parents are deciding.

I think for me to have gone through all this, are just lessons. Lessons that are guiding me to my future career. To be a physiatrist. I want to be successful physiatrist to where I can see I am making a difference in everyone's life that I come across.

      Inspiration to live another day is a will, a will that many people take advantage of. Sometimes life is going to give you a harsh beating wanting you to give up. Get this, it isn't about how hard you can get hit, but how many hits you can take.

 Life Coach, Inspirational Video.

  

    Take a moment to watch the video above. See they way you reflect upon what you have done so far in life, and what way you can change in the upcoming future. After watching it, I got this feeling wanting to want a change. Many of us try to change, everyone else just expects for change to come to us. Are we doing anything to change our path destined to us? If our mother says we are no good and will end up working in a fast food work place, will you just follow the path, or make a different turn to change? This is why a life coach is made for. To help us, as in our future, make better of us and be who and where we want to be.

  Sometimes the decisions we do are scarring for the rest of our lives, but when we meet someone who are going through what we went through first hand, we want to help them out.

you get punch, but how many hits you can take and learn. That's, how winners do it. Many times, we aren't capable of getting hit so many times, that we run to the help of a friend, family, or a personal life coach. They all help us get back on our horse, and ride it to the sunset.

  

  What is a life coach?

A life coach is a person who makes us want more in life, want to grow in profession, and want us to not struggle as much in life as we already are. As a teenager, we know how much pressure we have about school, family, colleges, grades, homework, job, the list can get longer as we age.

           Whenever we have problems, drama, or any type of help in need in any type of occasion, a life coach can help us out. Now see, they aren't trained or taught just one specific subject, but they are taught to be able to understand what we are going through and help us get back up on our feet with what they are given. Let's say we have an economic problem. We hire a coach to help us out, due to the fact they can definitely make the road a lot more smoother. They can find new ways for us to be able to manage our money for future problems we may experience. They, of course are not miracle workers, might not know in deep detail how to help us out, but they are that support we need to make the right decisions.

           Now a life coach isnt a therapist, or a “crazy person” trainer. They are like a bestfriend. You know, a best friend that is the certain someone who we expect to keep it 100% true and real with us no matter what. Well, they aren't scared to tell you the truth even if it hurts. Just the  difference is that this person can get fired, lose a client, or just move on to another customer in help. Unlike a real bestfriend, we argue, stop talking to them, then fix our problems after a week of grudge hold inside.

When talking to a life coach we understand that they will make us hear what we want to listen and what we don't want to hear, such as getting our feelings hurt. The way they use their words, are use to make us have “Eye Openers”. Make us see how we are wrong and the ways we can fix these mistakes and make them into prospering new ways to make life just a little bit easier. The type they communicate is different than most specialist, they actually have phone calls to do at least once a week to check up on you. The calls are supposed to make the client make new ways of thinking by themselves without the life coach telling them what exactly to do.

  Life coaching has no median wage due to the fact it all depends in their popularity on their clientele. They have estimated for them to win around from 23,000 to 105,000 dollars on the average year of work. In order to become a life coach, we have to be able to attend college for at least 18 months, some online training is required. Tuition can cost up to according to the article they can make from 7,000 to 15,000 dollars annually, which is cheap compared to other careers. The requirements to become a life coach is to be able to have a degree in just counseling itself in order to become a life coach.

  

      

        

What is a counselor/therapist?

These type of people are here to better our mental health. As in helping us out in our personal life. Usually we go to a counselor when we have emotional or behavior problems, being caused by family, friends or any outside force affecting our lives.

We don't talk to these people just to tell them what's wrong with us. We go to help. Help, that sometimes isn't offered to none of us due to the fact we are left solely, with nobody to talk to. Whenever we go to a counselor for help, they usually make us talk to them about what's been wrong. Once we do this, we feel better about ourselves. Glad someone was there to listen and give us advice in what to do and how to take the problem in a different way. In a positive manner.

Have you ever felt bad about yourself? Had a self-esteem issues? Well we all know we had at least one encounter that had made us feel like this. We usually are able to find them in schools, or in their offices. When we run to them for help, they listen, and think of ideas to make our life better. They help us out by letting us spill our feelings all over the place. Heart broken? Depression? Anxiety? Stress? They deal with our emotions, nothing compared to a life coach which is there to help us with problems physically.

      This type of help isn't, "only people who are ill or sick", they actually help anyone. Anyone, as in children all ages, adults, elderly, from average to professors, the person beside you to a complete stranger. When I mean anyone, I actually mean EVERYONE! When you go into a session, the very first one, the make you feel comfortable to be open with them because  they won't judge you in a bad way.

   

       As in a human being, we don't want to depend on anyone but ourselves. Their goals are to overcome dependencies, adjusting to life, and make a change to our lives, They help us understand what are the real issues are in our life and evaluate what will be the most professional way to resolve our problems. They strive for the easiest way to help us, but also the most effective, showing change in us while the progress grows over time.

  

     Usually in order to become a counselor/therapist, they need to have at least a 4 year degree of a bachelor's degree in psychology. Although they need to have in some occasions higher degrees as in a doctorate. According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics was 72,540 dollars yearly. It all depends in what area of specialization they are trained to be. In this _________, they show the examples of what they mean of how much money you can get depending on the specialization.

 

     We can't overcome our negative thought or emotions by ourselves sometimes. They although have many different areas of counseling in order to help us. For example there is vocational stress. Working with clients is different for each counselor, it might vary in small little groups as in like you watch on movies while others do one on one sessions, depending what will work best with the client. Of course, what the client decides to do with the help that is given is at their own risk.  

  What is a psychologist?

      Now we are going into human behavior. They are mostly evolved by how humans as in us, studying how we act towards changes put into our hands. Actions are done by thinking, so they study they mental behavior first. Mostly as on depression, relationship problems, parenting issues, or a chronic illness.

      In order to be a psychologist, you at least have to two years of a doctoral degree, and at least two years of experienced training in direct clinical service. Although usually they have to have more than 7 years of undergraduate degree.

     

     All psychologist are specialist of clinical psychology. With the motive to improve the mental health of all their clients, such as couples, families and groups. Now what is clinical psychology? Let's make things simple. It has to do with the treatment of mental illness, abnormal behavior and psychiatric problems. This branch is a small branch that puts you in complex situations. For example, treatment for drugs and alcohol, anorexic problems, or teaching, yes teaching the people safe ways to not fall into the wrong hands.

     Now that we have clarified what is clinical psychology, we understand in order to be a psychologist, we need to work long stressful hours. When I say stressful, I mean less sleeping due to you will be working with clients one to one all day making you tired,but you will see a change. The change you expect to come, because we all want to make a change in someone's life, some people as in me want it more than others.

       How much money can you make from this you may be asking. Well all these branches don't have a secure annually income since it's based on clients and the education you received. Yet they can make from 37,900 to 106,840 dollars. Of course keep in mind, that the salaries depend in how far you want to rise in the status.

What is a psychiatrist?

    Last but not least, this branch is here to prevent the mental health and emotional problems. This branch undergoes a study of the human body. Usually comparing and contrasting what the mental illness has to do with the emotional illness or it can go backwards.

    For example, addictions, severe and life threatening disorders to mild and self limiting conditions. Studies show that about 2.8% of the adult population undergoes severe mental health. In that 2.8% they are anxiety, depressive disorders, or from alcohol and other substances abuse. This would be the last place to go for help, but they get clients due to the mixed of emotional problems turning into physical behaviors.

As a psychiatrist, they tend to associate with clients that have really horrific bad behaviors. Like I said this would be the last place to visit, due to the fact there is some people who are afraid to accept they have a problem. “Rehab”, is known for this career to be taken in place, as in artist always go to here in order to stop their addiction.

When I was little I made a plan to help people. They have to take a series of medical school classes the first two years of college due to the fact they have to be able to know how to associate the mental illness with the emotional illness as in the study of the actions being done by the inside.

Like all the predictions of money for these branchez depend on the study, popularity and how much hours they work, the estimated for them to make 163,300 dollars annually. Which to me is a lot of money. Way more than teaching can bring you. Of course you can have an adequate way of a life style.

From all the research I did to find my future career due to my past I found I want to be involved in the psychologist branch. This type of research took me a lot of work finding the correct websites to use. Some websites didnt gave me the trustworthy information I was looking for, so I had to keep looking.

Yes, I yearn for the presence of a father. What girl doesn't want a father to pick her up from a long tiring day. The day we find ourselves asleep in the couch shows we are growing into young women. The people that hurt us make us into the people we are now. When we meet a friend they think thats who we really are. Although they don't know we use to very caring, loving, and a complete kind young girl changed into cold hearted, one minded to not care about what anyone had to think of her.

That girl sadly still lives. The girl who everyone thinks shes happy, just because she has a stupid smile on her face. Blood shed from her cuts not done by the absence of her father, but from a wounded heart from a guy. The same story behind the beggining was all evolved around her. She sometimes wishes she wasn't who she was. An emotional wreck trying to find her way through high school and find the career to help people out, because what she got put through, isnt what anyone has to be putten through.

          Every single doubt that has been made to her, they ended up proving them wrong. Showing the whole world that she isn't who they think she can be.

I, Karen Sanchez, approve this story finding her true calling. Wanting to be a someone in the world, feeling remorse about the past. Looking for the career of a simple psychologist can do amazing changes to anyone she comes across. It's too late to get help. All she can do is just wait for a better tomorrow and accomplish her goal to make a change in every life she comes across in this world with fear in their eyes, and sorrow in their hearts.